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| Tuesday, November 10th, 2009 |
asperger
[ novanglus ]
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11:04p |
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doisneau
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3:49p |
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asperger
[ rainbow_goddess ]
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7:54a |
Asperger Syndrome: "Wives need understanding too"
This article is about how everyone should feel sorry for people married to Aspies because Aspies don't find relationships to be a "priority". "He or she is mostly unable to recognize instinctively or to meet the emotional needs of his or her partner. Marriages can thus form seriously dysfunctional relationship patterns." Apparently Aspies get married for "convenience" and "practicality" rather than for companionship and togetherness. By the way, the title of the article is "Wives need understanding" but I notice that the article itself says "he or she" and seems to acknowledge that female Aspies do in fact exist! |
| Saturday, November 7th, 2009 |
asperger
[ an_su ]
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5:55p |
I posted about this in my journal... but I felt like posting here... Just to share... I don't know why. I'm going tonight, to a dinner organised by the publisher I work for as a childrens book illustrator... When they called to ask if I'd participate or not to the dinner they organise, I first thought the publishing coordinator who's about my age, would be there so that even if I don't know / get to talk anyone else, there would be her to talk to. She's a nice woman who makes me feel ok and I have an easy communication with her. Then... I learned she's not working there anymore. So full of questions LOL ... I'll be going... but I'm EXTREMELY afraid of speding a very boring night with people who won't talk to me and so on. I don't even exactly know if we're "invited", or if everyone will pay his her share. And I don't know how to manage to get to understand that without being silly. I'm out of the door in half an hour wish me luck LOL |
asperger
[ reign_lake ]
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8:51a |
First Post
Hi! I'm Kristen, am 30 yr. old, and highly suspect I may have Asperger's. When I was 10, my grandmother took me to a psychiatrist and he said that I had an unspecified learning disability, was EXTREMELY shy, and was behind developmentally (I was more like a 7 yr. old than a 10 yr. old). I didn't get to see my grandmother for more than a few times a year, so never went back, and my parents never cared to bother with it. But I've spent the past couple of years searching for what's wrong with me and even considered bi-polar for the emotional swings, until I started reading about Asperger's. And, boy, do I have a lot of the symptoms: 1. Face-blind: Thank god it's not just me. I didn't even recognize my own sister once. 2. Poor memory: Memories of my childhood-and of yesterday-are very spotty. 3. Poor motor skills: I am so clumsy and uncoordinated. You should see me try to sweep a floor. 4. Poor social skills: I spent my childhood made fun of, no matter that I went to over 40 schools by the time I was 15 (no, my parents were not in the military). 5. Eye contact: I find it very hard to look at people's faces and a lot of the times find myself looking in completely the opposite direction, 'cause I can't bear to look at them. 6. I'm terrible at taking care of myself as an adult and have just moved away from home, with a friend as a roommate. There's other, smaller things, but these are, I think, the worst. I want to go to a doctor for confirmation, but should I just pick a psychiatrist/psychologist from the phone book and ask about it or is there something specific I should do or look for? The confirmation is mainly because people tend to brush me off when I say I have a bad memory or act as if I can just get over shyness with a snap of my fingers-I just have this gut feeling that it's something more. And one question which bothers me: I hate being touched and especially hate touching other people. Is this a symptom, too, or is it just me? I realize that it could be because of a couple of, um, incidents in my childhood but I don't know... Thank you. |
| Friday, November 6th, 2009 |
asperger
[ limping2victory ]
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5:03p |
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asperger
[ pixie117 ]
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2:12a |
Sorry, more questions (last post for a few days I hope)
Since everyone was so helpful before, I pose another question (or two) to the group. Again, don't beat me up, I am completely new to all the research and whatnot. I find that I keep finding contradicting eveidence and wanted to know what real people thought. 1) Does autism, specifically Aspergers, tend to run in families? I am asking because of my own family. My sister was thought to have social anxiety disorder and a learning disability, but after discussing Aspergers with her, it really seems more likely. Not to mention, her 6 year old son is showing some pretty obvious signs that even have his teacher wondering if thee is something going on. He is an odd kid that is very, very smart. He sometimes acts so grown up and even talks about grown up things that it is scary. He doesn't like kids his age and when he is invited to birthday parties, he really does not want to go. When he had his own, he said he didn't want to invite anyone at all, just his family. When a family friend has a kid around his age, he hates visiting them and doesn't interact with the kids at all. He has siblings, so he wasn't raised an only child, but he prefers the company of adults. He says he will never have kids because they "get on his nerves". He is attached to certain objects and cannot throw simple things like paper plates or cups away without his heart breaking (we originally thought OCD was a possibility). When he sleeps at night, he likes to hold a piece of plastic bag between his fingers and rub it for comfort. He has mostly grown out of that, but it was really hard for awhile, especially if a plastic bag could not be found. He still needs it when stressed, almost like a pacifier for many kids. My whole family sort of has signs of it and always blamed it on other things (like my mom thinks she is OCD while my niece swears she has no emotions because she never shows them). So I wonder if I am just trying to make it seem like my entire family has Aspergers just because they are an odd bunch or if it really could be likely that at least some of them are on the spectrum? Not everyone obviously, mostly my mom, sister and nephew. And I am not the only one who thinks they are weird, my husband has a really hard time understanding things they do. To me, it is just normal and i know changing them is impossible. But he just cannot understand them at all. We have never been a normal family and have always had little oddities that stand out. Number 2 is beind a cut because of the sexual nature of the question. ( Read more... ) |
| Thursday, November 5th, 2009 |
asperger
[ faunna ]
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4:23p |
Interesting Possibility
Just throwing it out there... a relationship between ASD and CFS?Both are suspected by some to be triggered by mercury, gluten intolerance and candida infection. Same words but different concept Autistic Chronic Fatigue: Coping Strategies... for those who are worn down by struggling with the symptoms of ASD and of us who already strive to improve ourselves through a health oriented lifestyle. [Note: I incorrectly assumed that the words "possibility", "suspected" and "triggered" in combination with the phrase "just throwing it out there" would naturally imply that I wanted to explore a supposition and was not implying causality, searching for proofs, or touting cures. Didn't mean to let myself get off topic and foster a flame war and in no way intend to be offensive to an inherently sensitive audience in my desire to explore unfamiliar ideas with the only group of individuals who might understand or even share my curiosity. Additionally, my opinions are my own and while I hope that some might appreciate my clumsy attempts to socialize and explore I never, ever, expect all to share in my ideals or for anyone to change their beliefs to please me. I truly wanted only to quest for enlightenment and ponder ways to experience relief of my symptoms. My apologies for getting wound up and pushing back when misunderstood by those who do not share my enthusiasm for self-cultivation... it was unbecoming of me.] Current Mood:  curious |
asperger
[ pixie117 ]
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3:32p |
Two questions
I have two questions for everyone today. I have two quirks about me and I want to know if anyone else has them. 1) Mundane activities where there iare a lot of people stress me out. Grocery shopping for instance really messes with me and I dread it. Like now, I am almost out of food but I really hate going to the grocery store. I hate being crowded and I hate having to search for things when I am surrounded by people. It is almost like sensory overload for me and I really have troubles sometimes. It isn't so bad that I cannot function, but it is not something I like to do, that is for sure. I can do it, but I put it off until I really need to. 2) Having issues with "growing up". I am 27, I know I am an adult. But I don't feel like it. I sometimes wish I could be a kid again and really wish I could go back to being young. I know my so called "normal" friends think I am crazy for thinking this way. Things like getting married and one day having kids make me uncomfortable. I am now married, but I didn't feel like most people do on their wedding day. I also hate saying I am married or saying I am a wife because it just doesn't sound right for me to actually be married. I want kids someday, but the idea of getting pregnant and whatnot freaks me out. For some reason, the idea of telling people I am pregnant freaks me out. I had trouble with certain activities like shaving and having my period growing up. Things that are natural, and even I can admit, beautiful at times, and yet, I have trouble accepting them. It really boils down to the fact of growing up and being an adult, something which I am in denial about most of the time. Any advice on how to fix this or at least suppress it so I can live a mostly normal life? Is therapy my only option here? I don't think I explained myself really well, so I do hope you understand what I mean. So does anyone experience anything similar? I am just coming to terms with my Aspergers. I just recently realized that I fit into it and still trying to learn more, and hopefully improve some of the issues I am having that are making my life more difficult. Thanks for reading! |
asperger
[ limping2victory ]
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11:03a |
As someone with Autism, do you consider yourself disabled?
I've embraced being Aspergic because it's the best diagnosis that fits, but being Autistic means one is disabled. I'm not comfortable with that. I don't feel i AM disabled. What are everyone elses thoughts on this? Current Mood:  uncomfortable |
asperger
[ nandan ]
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9:38a |
And I thought I'd heard everything
But I never expected the autistic label to be used in this context. What was the man thinking?
From the Guardian:
France: 'autistic Tories have castrated UK in Europe' French Europe minister says David Cameron's pledge to reclaim EU powers is 'pathetic' and will leave Britain isolated Pierre Lellouche: 'It's very sad to see Britain just cutting itself out from the rest. It is the result of a long period in opposition.' Photograph: Bertrand Guay/AFP/Getty Images The Conservatives were accused by the French government tonight of "castrating" Britain's position within the EU by adopting an "autistic" approach that would take Britain off the radar. Speaking to the Guardian, Pierre Lellouche, France's Europe minister, described as "pathetic" the Tories' EU plans announced today, warning they would not succeed "for a minute". Giving vent to frustration across the EU, which has so far only been expressed in private, Lellouche – who said he was reflecting Nicolas Sarkozy's "sadness and regret" – accused William Hague, the shadow foreign secretary, of a "bizarre autism" in their discussions. He said: "They have one line and they just repeat one line. It is a very bizarre sense of autism." |
| Wednesday, November 4th, 2009 |
asperger
[ springolife ]
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7:59p |
OT- ghost game name?
Hey gamers out there, I can't remember the name of a particular game and I'm hoping someone here might know. I believe that Ashton is part of the title, and may be similar to Ashton Manor. It's a puzzle game, a bit like Myst. The setting is a haunted house that looks remarkably similar to the house in What Lies Beneath. I played it in 99 and was wanting to get it again to play with hubby. On another (similar) note, if anyone is interested I know where you can get copies of games like Ally Cat and Pong and other cool stuff online (oh to have the time to play endless games all day long. LOL) Thanks, Sarah Current Mood:  blah |
asperger
[ poetcsw ]
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1:57p |
Trying to Finish My Degree
The short version: My doctoral committee wants me to update the data I used for my dissertation. I'm making an argument that we need to improve our online course designs to accommodate students with ASDs. At one point, I was told by a faculty member that "The accommodation is to take the course in a classroom like everyone else." Not sure about other people here, but I don't always do great in some classrooms. So, I decide my dissertation would study how the handful of online courses in our department (writing studies) could be changed so they are more inclusive. Anyway, I put the info under a cut so you can skip this if asking about research is out of line. It's a good topic for discussion anyway. Accommodations are lacking at too many universities. ( Read more... ) |
asperger
[ spikeyannie ]
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12:22a |
face-blindness
I am slightly face-blind and it's REALLY fucking annoying/embarrassing. I'm starting an internship at a recording studio tomorrow and especially since I'll be sitting at the front desk for some of the time, it's imperative that I be able to recall everyone who walks in the door and what they look like. Short of taking notes and potentially looking like a psycho, I have no idea how to handle a situation like this and absolutely cannot fuck up. It took me a while to admit that I'm bad at recognizing faces, but it's definitely a shortcoming of mine...like once I was on the train and I saw my best friend from childhood's sister, only for the first few minutes of conversation I had a brain-fart and thought it was actually my best friend (who I hadn't seen in about 3 years) because they look somewhat alike and she was equally friendly to me. It was really ridiculous and if I hadn't been so tired, it probably wouldn't have happened, but it was still really fucked up. It's like every once in a while, my brain just kinda "glitches" and I mess things up with people...like the other night I was flyering at a club and almost gave a flyer to the same guy twice because I didn't realize I'd already handed one to him. I have to say that it has done a number on me socially, like whenever I start a new job, I have a hard time getting to know everyone on the crew because it's not even that I'm bad with names...I'm just bad with faces. It totally sucks and I'm wondering what I can do about it. Any ideas? I've noticed it's a lot easier when someone has a distinctive feature, like pretty eyes or a piercing or something, but when it's just me looking at a face and not making any sort of mental note, I have a hard time. So one of my thoughts was to just think of one impression I get about each person I meet and sort of catalog it in my brain with their name, maybe even write it down if I can get away with it...and maybe if I do this enough, I'll get better at it...what do you think? |
| Tuesday, November 3rd, 2009 |
asperger
[ nezdragon ]
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3:22p |
Podcast follow-up post.
Well, there were enough people here and elsewhere interested in an Asperger's podcast to start moving ahead a bit. I'm still far from actually making anything, but I'd like to get some thoughts and ideas together. There will definitely be transcripts of each show, so no worries there. I'm still undecided on length (it's likely to be either a half-hour or an hour). While it would be focused primarily for an audience like this community, I'd also like it to be interesting and relevant to people who know someone with autism, or are otherwise interested in learning more about it. Here's what I'm mildly planning: First off, I'm still looking for feedback on the idea. To that end, a poll. Elaboration on your answer (especially for the last two options) is welcome, but not required. Poll #1480465 Asperger's Podcast
Open to: All, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 56 Would you be interested in an Asperger's/autism focused podcast? Secondly, the content of the podcast itself. In regards to topics and the formats of those topics, I'm completely open to suggestions. I think the show should have fairly regular sections, such as news, the topic for the episode, e-mailed questions/comments, and so forth. Those sections would hardly be set in stone, which would give the show flexibility when things need to be added, changed, or removed. Topics for episodes could include explanations various aspects of Asperger's/autism, debunking common myths and misconceptions, advice on handling various social and environmental situations, self-advocacy, etc. Basically, if you're interested in a podcast of this sort (whether listening or reading transcripts), what would you like to see in it? What wouldn't you want? What topics would interest/benefit you? If someone with an autistic friend, relative, or co-worker were listening, what would you want them to learn? What would you want to learn? Thoughts? Ideas? My ears (eyes?) are open! Current Mood:  thoughtful |
asperger
[ faunna ]
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12:42p |
This was written NINE years ago!?!
Not news to some of us but possibly big news to others. It's a success story about removing gluten and casein from the diet along with a much more realistic connection to vaccination triggering a regressive presentation than the publicly touted one. I stumbled onto this looking for information on "cerebral allergy" (the wonderful new term I learned yesterday to help describe the mental faculty suppression I experience for two days when I eat cheese). I hate to admit the title because of how negatively some will react to a single word: We Cured Our Son's AutismAlso, on the cerebral allergy concept. I'm finding a lot of "There is no evidence that such a scenario can happen, and most doctors do not currently recognize cerebral allergy as a disorder."; however, I have experienced it personally and don't understand why the idea that mast cells can react independently in every other organ (such a the skin breaking out in hives without the lungs or sinuses getting involved in the allergic reaction and vise versa) is OK but not in the lining of the brain. |
asperger
[ arielhawksquill ]
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10:50a |
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| Monday, November 2nd, 2009 |
asperger
[ ratkrycek ]
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11:13p |
Looking for Parenting Communities/Resources y'all would recommend.
I have a friend who has AS, and she has a one year old son. She had asked about online support groups/offline support groups (we live in RI)/websites/forums etc. for folks with Asperger's who are parenting kids (whether those kids are on the spectrum or not). I know a few of you are parents so I thought I['d throw the question out here - what sites or books or groups etc. do you know of (if any) and find useful? I'll do a web search too, of course, but I'd love to know what you guys have found helpful - or unhelpful, so it can be avoided! Her husband is in the military and away a lot and I think she often feels like she would love to connect with other people and especially moms more; perhaps I will work on getting some resources together here myself in realspace, as it might not be a bad idea for a support group like this to exist, if it doesn't already. (Not being a parent myself, I don't know if raising a child as an Aspie is different than being an NT parent, but I'd imagine it might be - kind of interesting, I'd never given it much thought. Will look into this too.) Thanks in advance for any help/advice/pointers! (She does have an LJ but not a functional computer at the moment - that's being worked on - or I'd have asked her to post here herself.) Current Mood:  calm |
| Saturday, October 31st, 2009 |
asperger
[ an_su ]
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3:25p |
Feelings...
Is expressing feelings / telling how you feel about a situation that you don't appreciate / reacting to other people's feelings when you don't feel the same / or just interacting being able to express your concern about something someone goes through / even expressing it when you appreciate something, are all these rather difficult for any of you ? I think I have all of these and that makes people thinks I'm very unconcerned about them, and that's a problem if you care about someone. |
asperger
[ the_locster ]
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1:16a |
From my main blog, may be interesting to some... Connecting the dots: Selenium Deficiency, Autism (and Fluoridation?)Selenium deficiency may be less of an issue for those of you in the US as crops there tend to have sufficient levels. However, selenium crop/soil levels do vary by region and it also depends on your diet of course and almost certainly your own genetic makeup and physiology. |
| Friday, October 30th, 2009 |
asperger
[ pixie117 ]
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1:32p |
Introduction
Hello there. I joined a few weeks ago or so, but never did introduce myself. SO I thought perhaps I should since I am commenting and will probably be posting more from now on. I put it behind a cut because I tend to talk a lot. ( Read more... ) |
| Thursday, October 29th, 2009 |
asperger
[ nezdragon ]
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5:14p |
Asperger's Podcast?
I've been wanting to do something at least mildly productive lately, so I got to thinking. Dangerous, I know, but bear with me. There are a number of Asperger's/autism focused blogs and forums, but I've been wondering: do we have any podcasts? More to the point, do we want any? I'm curious how many people (here and elsewhere) would be interested in an Asperger's/autism centric podcast, likely focusing on issues that we'd talk about here, such as self-advocacy, dealing with environmental irritations, social skills/relations and so forth. I'm thinking each episode would be either half an hour or an hour long, and it'd be nice for it to be weekly or bi-weekly. Naturally, the times and releases would be entirely dependent on how long it takes to make each episode. I'd love to hear your thoughts, suggestions, criticisms... whatever. This is at the idea stage, and it's entirely dependent on whether or not you want it. Current Mood: curious |
asperger
[ rael_barclay ]
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2:51p |
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asperger
[ lordalfredhenry ]
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1:43p |
Borderline Personality Disorder
I'm learning a lot about this right now and as usual, something I start to find interest in, I soon identify with. It makes a lot of sense though since this is caused by childhood distresses/traumas etc. I'm just wondering how many here have some perseverant expertise here...because I know I've seen this come up before but it's not attracted my attention as much until just recently. I would also like to know of groups/references, stories and, to make it a bit topical, how this has tied into life as an autistic (or other related self-identification). ( more on this... ) |
asperger
[ teamnoir ]
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8:26a |
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